March 2011

While writing Honeymooners Forever, I wrote openly about marraige issues and solutions. One of the most important parts of the marriage relationship, is having a great sex life.

This area has many possibly challenges. The following, and many more, are addressed in my book under the Restore the Passion chapter:

Low Sex Drive (Low Libido),
How to have an Orgasm,
How to be a great lover,

I discuss improving the communication in marriage to improve the quality and frequency of sexual encounters. Marriage advice written for women, but indirectly for men.

I discussed how marriage conflict, particularly resentment in women, is a very big 'leg crosser'. Hence, if your wife is no longer 'seeminlgy attracted to you', you need to look at the way you are treating her. Is it respectful and loving, or is she becoming a martyr (working for you, but not with you, and feeling bitter - but not letting you know, directly)?

Since writing Honeymooners Forever, two areas have come to my attention:

1. One issue, that does sadden me, is the sexless marriage. I do believe that a marriage is an opportunity for man and woman to love each other, over and over, and strengthen their love, in this very special and sacred union. In a sexless marriage, usually one partner is left unsatisfied. I do think this is tragic. I still believe the techniques in my book can be applIed, and that there is hope, if both parties are wanting to change.

2.The other area is surviving the affair. Since writing the book, I have coached many women, and some men, through the despair of a parnters betrayal. This extra information is not included in the book, so please EMAIL me, and I will email you, Survive the Affair Warzone article.

May your love deepen daily,

Love Phoebe Hutchison

I was talking to my nine year old this week about all the different types of rules we have. There are house rules (like don't run in the house, don't wear shoes in the house), and then Mummy has her own rules (like workout at least every second day, watch calories, have quality time with everyone), but there are also relationship rules.

Life, just like relationships, would quickly become complicated and chaotic if we didn't have rules. The simple things such as: getting out of bed in time to get ready, doing the washing on the weekend, organizing grocery shopping, all keep the house-hold running smoothly, and make it less stressful.

Having rules for a relationship is just the same. When you spend quality time every day with your partner (and children), when you vow to treat them with respect and love, when you ensure resentment does not creep in by arguing effectively, when you give each other freedom...

These rules, among others, become the back-bone of your relationships. Relationship rules, such as those in Honeymooners Forever, 12 Step Marriage Survival Guide, become the strength that will keep you together, happily, through lifes storms.