A magical and imperative part of a relationship is using your mind. How? Well, use positive expectancy. If you expect him to be loving, caring, helpful (and you are obviously these things to him), then you have a far greater chance of improving your relationship. Relationships do not need to be confusing or complicated (although, I must say...having children is a little like that). But in marital relatiosnhips, you will be enrched by having a goal (a feel) a certain 'way' that you want to interact with your partner. Then put that thought 'out there', focus on 'the ideal couple' that you have visualized for the both of you. Work towards this visualization by being kind, considerate and caring, every day. What you give, what you put out, is what you get back...but visualizing the way you want to be as a couple, is that little extra bit of magic. I 'see' my partner and I as madly in. loving, respectful, and romantic - then I receive (from the universe) thus beautiful relationship. Visualize your ideal relationship, even if it is terrible right now. Visualizations help make an imperfect world, a little more perfect!